This is a brand new experience for me. I have never owned a business before, so the freedom that it offers can be a bit overwhelming. It feels like being dropped in the ocean and then having to build your boat. I have always worked for someone else, so the idea that I can do whatever I want, whenever I want is hard for me to wrap me head around. I have been conditioned to believe that I always need someone telling me my task for the day, and if I preform that task properly I will get paid at the end of the week. But now, any success will come from me, and not a system that someone else has set up.
One of the things I have realized, though, is that even for businesses, systems have been set up so that people can just take the cookie cutter approach. Do the exact same things as everyone else in a particular field, and expect the same outcome. As I was working on building BreakPoint, I looked around at a lot of different coaching sites and noticed a lot of similarities.
No matter the differences in the people, whether they were leadership coaches, business coaches, life coaches, or any of the other titles used today, the message was very similar: It’s your fear that keeps you from moving forward. True enough. Then the formula seems to be I’ll teach you A (how to overcome your fear, or feeling stuck, or feeling that you want more), so that you can get B (the job, relationship, money).
Now, I’m not against any of those things, in fact I learned something from each person I looked at, and they have all been in business for several years, so apparently people are connecting with them and getting the results they want. But, I don’t want to promise “if you do this, then you will get that.” For me the first part of that whole equation is the prize. Happiness, love, peace and all the other amazing emotional places we can go are the real prize; they are not just a tool and a means to an end. I know that may turn some off to what I’m about because you want way more out of life, and honestly, so do I. I think it’s natural to want more. But, my goal is to be authentic and true to myself, and my job, as I see it, is teach you ways to build a strong, positive emotional foundation that can sustain everything you aspire to be in life. Jobs, money and relationships come and go, but that foundation is always yours to control.
So, my message is this. I am not going to push abundance or leadership, and I’m not going teach you how to grow your six figure business into a seven figure business. I wish I could teach you that, but as I have just started, I don’t feel qualified to even teach someone how to grow a one figure business. Instead, BreakPoint is about retraining our minds to escape the constant cycle of those lower level emotions like anger, anxiety, sadness, and depression that seem to consume us.
That is the very reason why I decided to call this BreakPoint. As a wave travels towards land, and the ocean floor begins to rise, the wave is pushed upward. Eventually gravity will make the wave break. If we allow our minds to run free range, like our chicken, our mindset will break towards that negative side of our emotional spectrum. But if we take control and practice those positive emotions that wave will break to a much better place.
For me that comes down to the big three: Gratitude, Growth and Love.
Gratitude–Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have.
Growth–Murihei Ueshiba, the founder of Akido said, “Life is growth. If we stop growing, technically and spiritually, we are as good as dead.
Love–Viktor Frankl, an Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, and Holocaust survivor said, “A thought transfixed me: for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth — that love is the ultimate and the highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love.